Marriage: A Blessing or A Book of Lamentations?

"Is There Really a 'Wrong' Person in Marriage?"

Greetings to you my beloved friends and steemians of this great community. Trusting God y'all are doing good? I'm doing great at my end.

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I often hear people say they're afraid of marrying the wrong person, or that their marriage turned out to be the wrong one. But I've been thinking deeply. Can someone truly be "wrong" for you in a marriage you both freely consented to, prayed about, planned together, and celebrated with family and friends? Did the person suddenly become wrong after the wedding day? Or is something deeper at play?

Personally, I don't believe that any person or marriage is automatically wrong. What often makes it feel wrong is the way we respond to challenges, differences, and inevitable seasons of change. Every relationship, especially marriage, comes with its share of friction. But friction doesn't mean failure; it means growth is happening.

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We sometimes use the word "wrong" when what we really mean is unprepared, unwilling to adjust, or struggling to communicate and forgive. We see someone's flaws more clearly after marriage, not because they suddenly changed, but because intimacy removes filters.

The truth is, no two people will ever fit together perfectly without effort. It takes intentionality, communication, grace, forgiveness, patience, and a lot of humility. Marriage is less about finding the perfect person and more about two imperfect people choosing to walk in the same direction every single day.

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So instead of labeling people or marriages as "wrong" let's talk about:
• Making God the center of the union.
• Forgiving easily, because no one is flawless.
• Adapting and adjusting, because marriage introduces you to versions of each other you've never met before.
• Solving problems together, not against each other.

Do these things consistently, and you'll find that what many call the "wrong person" may actually be the right person who just needed a partner willing to do the work.

There is no perfect marriage. Just two people choosing each other again and again, with love, grace, and commitment.

I’d really love to hear your thoughts: What do you think about this?

1. Is there such a thing as marrying the wrong person?
2. Can two people grow into becoming the right match through effort and maturity?

Drop your views, suggestions, and honest opinions. Let's learn from one another.

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