Parents/kids interaction:TRAINING THE BOY CHILD

"Train up a child in the way he should grow and when he is old, he will never depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6). When a boy child is trained as much as the girls; when he grows, these behaviours will be wired into his mainframe. However, this is rarely the case. The patriarchy practiced in most places and communities in Africa see the boy child as a king; hence, he ought not to be domesticated. While the girl child is pampered whenever some things happen to them, the boy child is usually asked to 'man up' as men do not cry. The girl is taught how to close her legs, get domesticated and be ready for marriage. This advice and training is deluded, as the boy child only learns how to battle his emotions, hustle and marry a decent girl who will do the rest for him. To eradicate and drastically reduce the problems and challenges the girl child encounters,the right training of the boy child is what is needed.

Right ways to train a Boy Child

1. Indulge him domestically:
While distributing household chores to the kids, there should be no form of division; this is for the ladies and this is for the boys. Let the boys also do some cleaning, cooking and even shopping for groceries.

2. Pamper him like other kids:
Allow him to cry if it calls for it and stop asking him to always 'man up'. Expressing his emotions makes him a free and happy child.

3. Always make him understand that he is no different from his sister, this will reduce the superior feelings; lessen the ego and the thought of being superior in him.

4. Teach him how to close his legs:
Just like his sisters, let him understand that closing his legs is the right thing to do and no behaviour is gender-based. As much as you try to tell your girls to stick to the relationship and respect it, let him also know he can do so as well.

5. Prepare him for marriage:
While lecturing the girls on how best to attract the best man, also teach him how he can be the right person a girl would want to be with.

In conclusion, training the boy child is important. Grooming the girl child along with the boy child properly will help reduce drastically the challenges our girls face. Parents! Do your best to inculcate the right values in them from the very beginning and when they eventually grow up, a larger percentage of those values will not depart from them. Be that as it may, it is important to conclude that in as much it is true that the qualities built into our boys is what they become ; this does not neglect the fact that as parents we might do our best and yet our kids turn out the other way.

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