Contest: "Marriage 50/50; Fair or Impossible?"

Assalamu Alaikum, how are you all? I hope everyone is well. Today I have come to participate in a beautiful competition whose main topic is married life. In fact, married life means not just being together but understanding and respecting each other and sharing the burden of life. On the path of life, a person can move forward as much as they can alone. If he has a partner, that path becomes much easier, but for this, open discussions and understanding each other and sharing responsibilities are required. Today, I will share my feelings in light of the important questions of this competition.

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So friends, without delay, I am trying to answer this competition below. 👇

✅Do you believe husbands and wives should share bills, house chores, and responsibilities 50/50? Why or why not?

In my opinion, the beauty of a relationship only lasts when both partners put in equal effort, but it is not always possible to divide the work 50/50 and every day of life is different and the situation is different, for example, if the husband comes home tired from work and the wife may do a little more housework at that time, and if the wife is sick or busy, the husband also has to step up and take responsibility. I believe that if there is understanding between the husband and wife, there is no need to calculate the work because the work done from a place of love never feels like a burden.

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✅In your opinion, does “equal” always mean “fair” in marriage? Explain.

My feeling on this topic is that equal and fair are not the same thing. Equal means that both are doing the same amount of work, but fair means that there is a balance according to the position and situation of both. Let me give you some examples. In fact, if the husband works outside all day and earns money for the family, and the wife stays at home and takes care of the children and the family, then it may not be equal in terms of numbers, but it is fair because both are fulfilling their responsibilities according to their ability and position. In my eyes, fairness is the most important thing in married life because if there is fairness, no one will feel neglected or overly stressed.

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✅ If one partner earns more money or has a busier job, should the other take on more house chores?

Here I will say that the family is a family and if one person is too busy, then the responsibility of the other person naturally increases a little and it is not a burden but an expression of love and let's say the husband works day and night to meet the needs of the family, then if the wife thinks that she does not need to do anything other than cooking or household chores, then it can push the relationship away. On the other hand, if the wife earns more and is busy outside, then the husband must come forward for the family work, and I believe that the relationship is beautiful when we both move forward with the mindset that we will keep the family beautiful without keeping track of who did how much.

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✅What are practical ways couples can balance responsibilities without feeling stressed or unfairly treated?

In fact, in my opinion, the best way to share responsibilities is to have open discussions, and if small matters are not discussed, misunderstandings can arise. Some practical ways can be like making a list of tasks that can be decided by both of you and who will do what work, such as the husband's responsibility for shopping and the wife's for cooking, but it can change according to the situation. And cooperating. If one person starts a task, the other can help finish it. For example, if the wife cooks, the husband can wash the dishes. And working together. Doing some tasks together doubles the joy. And cleaning the house or folding clothes. This also finishes the work in less time. And the relationship also becomes sweeter. And if one is tired, the other comes forward. At the end of the day, if someone is very tired, the other can temporarily take over their responsibility. And praising. Thanking each other at the end of the work, these small words strengthen the relationship a lot, and in my experience, cooperation and appreciation play the biggest role in reducing stress in married life.

The real happiness of life is not in a life full of pomp and show but in sharing the responsibilities by each other's side and if husband and wife understand that the real strength of their relationship is compromise and sympathy and cooperation then the family will never feel heavy and I think the real question in married life should be are we keeping each other happy because if there is happiness the family will be beautiful and if the family is beautiful then life will also become easy.

I have invited some of my friends here as per the rules of this competition. I hope they will participate in this competition and share their opinions, and we will feel happy or learn something by reading that post, and everyone will be well. @dexsyluz @sabrip @noelisdc @wirngo @ulfatulrahmah

Thank you everyone for reading my post.

@baizid123