Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 108 : The choice of companionship or solitude; which suits you best?

Living With family

My cousin as finally get her own house. She has been dreaming it since her university days. She once told me that ,she is waiting for the time that, “No more sharing bathroom, no more someone touching her things, no more noise.” And she finally see that kind of life. First week, everything was sweet. She cook and enjoy alone, play music, sleep anytime she wants.

Second week, there wasn't light althrough that week. Rain begin falling. No way to get her phone charged. She catch cold. Nobody is there to help buy medicine. She sit down at corner, and cry small.

Third week, she started missing someone that could have asked her "Have you eaten?” She miss gist, miss laugh. That time, she understand that peace is sweet, but sometimes companionship warm someone than. But lastly she went back to her parents house.

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Biggest advantages and disadvantages of living alone compared to living with someone

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Living Alone – Good Side

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• We can do anything we want. If you want to chop rice with sugar and palmwine, nobody will look you or blame you.

• You can even sleep at anytime, wake up anytime. No alarm from another person that wants to rush for work.

• Your house will be quiet. You can think very well, plan well, and rest well.

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Living Alone – Bad Side

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• If you are sick, you are the one to go find help by yourself.

• If you get good news, nobody will join you to shout and be happy with you.

• Sometimes, your silence will surely loud than generator. You might even be talking to the wall.

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Living With Someone– Good Side

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• You will surely have someone to talk to. And Gist will full the house.

• You can always share things like—food, bills, problems,etc.

• If you are sad, someone can notice and cheer you up.

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Living With Person – Bad Side

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• The person you are living might some times scatter your peace. Play loud music, and leave plate very dirty.

• Argument can start from small thing. Like who use the remote last, who use the toothpaste last. Who brings sands into the house, etc.

• You will just have to be adjust to some certain things. Maybe you like cold water, another person like hot. Or you might love okro soup but the other person doesn't like it. Problem can comes if you don't adjust it.

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Living with someone helps improve emotional well-being, or can it sometimes limit personal growth? Why?

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Yes Living with person can help our heart. If we are sad, they can comfort us and motivate us. Also if you are happy, the person can go ahead in dancing with you. That kind of joy is something so sweet.

But if there's no one to support you, you can feel down and it can affect your emotional well being. However in the other hand it might limit some one personal growth. For example as one of my friends David. He live with a friend that always mock him.

Anytime David want to try new things, his friend wilk say, “You don't know anything, if you anything or ways to make money you wouldn't have been sharing were to sleep with me.” At this point David will fear to try new things and also afraid to confront him. He begin to hide his dream.

Later, David move out. He started small business. And he begins to shine. So now , living with someone can help me grow if the person is good. But if the person is not good, I'll just be shrinking like wet sponge.

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Stage in life i think it’s best to live alone, and when is it better to share space with someone

When someone is still learning life—like student or fresh worker—sharing house can help. You will be saving money, learn how to manage people, and also get support.

But when you have really understand yourself, maybe mid-20s or early 30s, living alone can help you to grow. You will know what you like, and what you don't like. Also you will build your own lifestyle.

When you have marry, sharing house will be good. You will build life together. Even old people also need someone that will help them feel alive.

So, live alone when you find yourself. Share house when you are ready to share yourself.

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Peace and companionship, which would I prioritize in my living situation and what shaped that choice

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Peace and companionship with family

One time, there's a guy name Jeremiah that live with his cousin. Every day was fight after fight. His Cousin will bring people to come to the house, he will borrow money, leave toilet dirty. Jeremiah begin to fear to come back house. He begin to sleep at his friend place.

When his cousin later travel, Jeremiah sleep like baby. He begin to smile again In the neighborhood.

So for me, in that case, if I find someone that is calm, supportive, respect my space, I do hold them tight. And that's particular people is my family.They are my treasure, because staying with them I have found peace and companionship. So however, peace and companionship can live together if the person plan well.

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Living alone and living with someone is a two different journey. One is silence, the other one is noisy. One has freedom, the other has been sharing. But both can teach you something. Just know your season and reason. Know when to walk alone and when to hold hand. And no matter the choice, make sure that your heart is at rest. Because house that doesn't have peace, is not a home.

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Best regards:@emishael60

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