Marriage 50/50; Fair or Impossible?

How are you all my friends? I hope you are all well and healthy, and I pray that you all have a good and happy moment every day. Friends, today I have come to participate in a very timely and thoughtful competition organized by the #steem4nigeria community. The topic of the competition is 50/50 equality in marriage: fair or impossible?. This issue is somehow related to the lives of each of us, so on this occasion, I would like to share some of my personal thoughts with you. I hope you like it.

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✅Is it really possible to divide responsibilities 50/50?

We all know this in this beautiful world of ours? Marriage means a journey of two people together, a partnership. And the basis of any partnership is understanding and cooperation. However, nowadays it is often heard that for a healthy relationship, everything must be strictly divided 50/50, whether it is expenses, homework, or childcare. Is this really correct?

Although this idea sounds very modern and fair, I personally think that in real life it is almost impossible and, in many cases, unfair. In my opinion, love or family responsibilities cannot be measured with mathematical equations. Today I did 50%, tomorrow you have to do 50%; such calculations ruin the sweetness of a relationship.

To me, the words "equal" and "fair" are not the same. "Equal" means to divide everything in half. But "fair" means to divide responsibilities according to circumstances, abilities, and needs.Fairness is more important than strict equality in a happy marriage.

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This topic makes the concept of "equal vs. fair" clearer. Suppose, if one partner earns much more than the other or has such a heavy workload that he or she cannot spend time at home, then would it make sense to divide all the household chores 50/50? In my opinion, absolutely not.

In such a situation, it is a sign of mutual understanding and love for a partner who has less charge or who spends more time at home to take domestic responsibilities a little more. It is not a matter of being small or big, but to understand the situation of each other. Respect and work as a team. When one partner is handling the financial side of the family, if the other takes on a little more of the domestic side of the family, then balance is created.

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• The key to a happy marriage is balance, not strict equality. For this, couples can adopt some practical ways:

• Divide work according to skills: Whoever is more skilled in the task can do that task. For example, one person may be good at cooking, while the other may be good at outside work or accounting.

• Open discussion: You should talk to each other regularly. Many problems can be solved by openly discussing who is under more pressure or who is not comfortable with a certain responsibility.

• Working as a team: It is necessary to move away from the idea of ​​"this is my job, that is your job" and create a mindset of "this is our family, our job."

At the end of the day, friends, marriage is not a competition; it is teamwork. It is not about who did what, but how well the two of you move the family forward together.

@memamun @franyeligonzalez @edgargonzalez

May everyone be well.

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