Steem4Nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 109: Letting Go

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Hello fellow Steemians!!

I am hoping you had a lovely day.
I came across this amazing contest that talks about letting go on this platform and i thought to jump on it. As i have on different occasions had to let go.

Letting go can mean different things depending on the context it is used. It could mean letting a dispute between someone go. It could also mean letting a relationship you had with someone go. It could even mean letting an issue that presses on your heart and angers you go.

Depending on what affects us we may have to let go of things or people one way or another, because sometimes dwelling on something can cause us to do something we could never have imagined we would do ordinarily.

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Yes i have. Sadly i had to let go of my friendship with someone. Don't judge me yet. Stay with me and understand why i had to do it.

So growing up, as teenagers I and my friend had a lot of dreams. We wanted a good life for ourselves. We made plans of how we thought our lives will turn out later in future. But life is not always as easy as we plan it to be. Life hit her, stronger than she cared to share with me.

Often times, mature people in the neighborhood would call me and warn me to stay away from her because the felt she had stray, they did not say what she was doing wrong exactly. All they said was that she was found in places a teenager had no business being at. Accompaning people whose life style was questionable.

I never agreed to let go at first. I defended her with all i had in me. Who made us judges i remember asking them. Then i tried to look at her life style, compare it to what they accused her of to see if they were any truths. At first she found good ways to hide her tracks. It was almost unbelievable. But then what is that thing the say about a leopard - It can never hide it's spot.

Slowly, she started inviting me to join her in some of these visits. Let's go catch fun a bit she said. But my conscience wouldn't permit it. Plus what was i supposed to say to my strict parents.

I kept turning down the invitation, and advising her as a friend,to be careful. But slowly she grew bored of me. I was not as fun as her new friends, slowly we stopped speaking. Bit by bit we stopped communicating.

Sometimes, i look back and i miss her. She may have gone astray but that does not mean she was a bad person. I believe in second chances and that she still has good in her.

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Show me your friends and i will tell you who you are. It sounds serious, but it is undeniably true.

During one of my conversations with the mature people who advised me, they told me that although i was not doing anything wrong at the moment, but if i kept associating with her the way i was i would start seeing the things she did as acceptable and will join her soon enough.

At first i defended myself, but after a long scrutiny, i realized i already fell into the trap. And so when she got bored, and would go flex, i gave space.

At that point nobody had to tell me twice. I had to let go of that much association. At first i tried to play supportive friend, check up from time to time. But i just kept seeing her fall dipper and dipper into her new lifestyle until we stopped speaking totally.

Sometimes i hear about her from others now. But i find it difficult to judge her. I just keep praying that someday she finds her way out of that life.

Letting go is not always pleasurable, but sometimes it is necessary.

I now invite my friends:@bossj23, @okere-blessing and @emmalex25 to share their letting go experience.