Thank you @mirrors; the boys did seem to get a lot of my genes in the mix ;) And your family will happen when the time is right; it is a lot of work, but in the end, it has been the most rewarding experience of my life...the ups and the downs.

Thank you for recognizing the strength I have when dealing with Brian's "reality", but you put it beautifully when you said,

a classic case of putting life into our days rather than putting days into our lives

YES, everyone loves a poet :)

Thank you for a lovely comment @mirrors!