I hear you. While I have quite a few pleasant memories of India, they are all buried far down in my subsubsubconcsious. My accessible memories of the country are similar to what you mention above.

But when I went south, particularly Goa and Kerala, I too felt like I had gone to a different country. A much nicer place....

And when I landed in Sri Lanka, it was like I was on a different planet ... diff from India, that is! It was much cleaner and much more civilized, and the people were very decent and pleasant.

(Interestingly, I did not find the Sri Lankan women very attractive ... to my tastes, that is. I distinctly recall seeing only 1 woman whom I thought was "beautiful" ... subjectively speaking, of course.)

I'm sure you'll like it, and you might even be surrounded by hordes of beautiful, alluring women!!